Book Clubs & Best Friends
A year ago, at a friends Christmas party, my group of besties and I started chatting about books, and the various book clubs I belonged to on Instagram. During the course of this conversation, one friend (clearly so much wiser than me) asked why in the world we didn’t have an in real life BEST FRIENDS book club? So under the influence of a couple (and a couple more) bottles of wine, we decided to start one.
It has been the best thing ever.
Each month, one of us hosts, and we get together to have a girls night. We drink wine, we catch up, we eat good food, and at some point we remember that we are supposed to be a book club so we talk about the book we read that month. It is a blast. It is a blast because it is so easy, and unstructured and because I get to share the books I love so much with all my favorite people in the world. We joke that we are the worlds most successful wine club, that sometimes talks about books.
It is all the more perfect because it gives us one more reason that we MUST get together every single month. We are a close knit group of friends, and we spend lots of time together as it is, but still, there is nothing better than having a built in, non-negotiable reason to ensure we have a night to ourselves, to connect and talk and support one another in the good and bad weeks.
I love this book club. I love all the book clubs I read with (and run) but this one is so near and dear to my heart (for obvious reasons). Mostly because reading is my JAM - I am the resident book-o-holic in our group, and it is so nice for me to have an outlet to share that with the people I love most. (It should be noted that the people I love most are all mostly fitness-a-holics and so they are always trying to share things like fitness competitions, marathons and triathlons with me, which is much LESS my jam).
People ask me alot, how I read with so many groups, and the truth is, you just have to MAKE TIME for it. There is no other way. For me, the making of time to spend with people I love the most is in no way a sacrifice - the opposite - one day I imagine we will all be old biddies still drinking wine and reading together, and I doubt I will ever think “well crap girls, we really wasted a lot of time reading over the decades…..we should have used that time to binge watch tv alone on our couch, do laundry or pay bills.”
Which is to say, I am grateful to make the time to spend with my friends, and if there was any one group activity I could recommend to you, it would be this - create an IRL book club with your own group of besties/weirdos/family/squad. Buy bottles of wine, and snacks and make it a priority to spend that time together. Don’t make excuses not to go. And watch your heart fill up each month as you share the one gift that never goes out of fashion - time.
Before you know it, you too will be a group of old biddies, gossiping in your wine club…that sometimes remembers to talk about books.